tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-488757155668840939.post2792988757720048767..comments2023-11-13T15:58:31.220-08:00Comments on HOLLYE DEXTER: Blue HawaiiHollye Dexterhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10184998678584429429noreply@blogger.comBlogger10125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-488757155668840939.post-40188639997584988042011-10-17T21:37:30.232-07:002011-10-17T21:37:30.232-07:00(((((thank you)))))) sweet Debra.(((((thank you)))))) sweet Debra.Hollye Dexterhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10184998678584429429noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-488757155668840939.post-44725591280086825462011-10-17T20:04:56.755-07:002011-10-17T20:04:56.755-07:00(((((((HUGS)))))))))(((((((HUGS)))))))))Debra DeAngelohttp://www.ipinion.usnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-488757155668840939.post-20832189836583422272011-10-15T22:13:54.862-07:002011-10-15T22:13:54.862-07:00Thank you Georgie. I know you understand the compl...Thank you Georgie. I know you understand the complicated Mother-daughter dance too well. xoxoHollye Dexterhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10184998678584429429noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-488757155668840939.post-499811086590060212011-10-15T06:24:31.591-07:002011-10-15T06:24:31.591-07:00Dearest Hollye...the bond between a mother and dau...Dearest Hollye...the bond between a mother and daughter is heart wrenching, even at its best. We search for so much in the comfort of a mother. When they flounder, we ask why, when they embrace us, we forget their mistakes. We carry their judgements around like giant weights...but at the end of the day, after you've given all you have, that alone must suffice...for as a mother yourself, you are the keeper of souls with a flock of your own to attend to. The pain and longing only exists now to strengthen your will to break the cycle...and you have done that with so much grace, compassion and love. We are all responsible and accountable for our choices...not even those closest to our hearts can tame the anger of the past. So whatever demons lurk within, whatever her story is that brought her to this place, is now a web only she alone can unweave. Let your hope be a stepping stone for your own children, so that they might have one less hope to long for. In spite of all you have endured, look at you now...a beautiful, courageous, talented and loving...mother, wife and friend...a caretaker of souls. You have broken the cycle. That, my friend, is the strongest of traits. Yes, you are loved and you love in return...with such passion!!! Continue to be strong...you have the support system to carry you through and enough love to ease the pain. <br /><br />Love you, Georgie ♥Georgienoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-488757155668840939.post-84801083730045561622011-10-13T21:21:35.787-07:002011-10-13T21:21:35.787-07:00Thank you so much everyone. Your encouragement mea...Thank you so much everyone. Your encouragement means the world. I really paused a long time before posting this, but now I see, so many of you out there are in the same boat and can relate. Thank YOU!<br />And yes, Bill, I'm truckin' along....because really, what choice do we have? Life dishes out it's crazy, and we get to decide what to do with it.<br />Good idea Lori and Mamawolfe. Maybe I will show up as my own parent...I always was anyway. <br />xoxoHollye Dexterhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10184998678584429429noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-488757155668840939.post-41662171598540105302011-10-13T19:53:34.895-07:002011-10-13T19:53:34.895-07:00One of the hardest things about being an adult is ...One of the hardest things about being an adult is acting like one. It's especially hard when the people who are supposed to be our role models don't take it seriously, and we, and the rest of the world, see them in their true light. It's hard to realize that our parents are human, and that we may not like them very much or even wonder how we could be of the same blood. Last week my college student interns were telling me how their parents call and ask THEM for money! I couldn't understand why parents would do that to their children. I agree that if you can find someone for your son who ACTS like a grandparent, that would be perfect. Be strong.<br />http://mamawolfe-living.blogspot.comJennifer Wolfehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11114021307777091105noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-488757155668840939.post-64681290733348656102011-10-13T19:24:42.659-07:002011-10-13T19:24:42.659-07:00So sorry to hear about your blues. I think on thes...So sorry to hear about your blues. I think on these days at school anyone can bring someone close to them. Some might not even have grandparents alive as well. Hope the distance in miles will not hold you back from someday resolving this with your Mom but only if it doesn't make you the "bad" person or wrong doer. Wishing you a happier week.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-488757155668840939.post-68179948808097814172011-10-13T17:00:15.277-07:002011-10-13T17:00:15.277-07:00oh my sweet friend. I am so sorry. grief and loss ...oh my sweet friend. I am so sorry. grief and loss are always. grief and loss no matter who, what or why. you are a remarkable human being...no doubt about it...know you are loved.matters that matterhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02027919249762434555noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-488757155668840939.post-54398683329899624602011-10-13T16:32:58.346-07:002011-10-13T16:32:58.346-07:00Two things.
1. Her geographical move, in a sense...Two things. <br /><br />1. Her geographical move, in a sense, means nothing. My mother and I, after years of this not being so, have a wonderful relationship across the two coasts. And my cousin and her mother are estranged but live only blocks apart. <br /><br />2. I really admire how despite having some similar family of origin horror as me you have not let it paralyze you. Still were open to love and able to create a career. When my mom was as sick as she was it took all of my energy just to not be afraid to be on earth and dodge the possible landmines at every turn. The fact that it's not happening now frees up a lot of energy but there's still a lot of patterns to reconfigure and damage to recover from. <br /><br />We love you Holl. Keep on truckin'.Funtnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-488757155668840939.post-88007939149191389592011-10-13T16:13:46.164-07:002011-10-13T16:13:46.164-07:00Hollye--I feel for you. is this a family friend th...Hollye--I feel for you. is this a family friend that can sit in for you? someone perhaps older & involved who can be Evan's special guest? If not, why don't YOU go??????? that's what I used to do when my children were little (oddly enough, my folks were in new mexico at the time, and my in-laws were in florida)..........hope you're feeling all rosy again soon--xo LoriLorihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03930415413376102535noreply@blogger.com